So it came to pass that I went over there for dinner. When I
walked in he beamed at me and we hugged and kissed. We began our talk about
what we wanted.
He said that he was stupid to say I love you and that he was
only saying it because that’s what he thought I wanted. I take this comment
with a grain of salt, I think he was just embarrassed that he had feelings for
me that were not reciprocated by me. He was so in love with me, you wouldn’t
confess your love and have such a bad reaction if you didn’t love someone.
Although I would suggest that after 4 weeks it was more of a man crush than
love.
I reiterated that I enjoyed spending time with him, that it
was more than just sex. We had more intimate moments with each other such as
snuggling watching a movie or me staying the night with him spooning me from behind.
He appreciated this and said that he wanted me to be a fuck buddy and that he
couldn’t bear not to see me again.
So now, my fuck buddy is now an official fuck buddy
(yippee!). I have spent two nights at his place sleeping over. It felt good
to be intimate with someone but not have the emotional baggage that comes with
a relationship.
However, when we fucked the first night, the condom slipped off.
I’m still not sure how on earth it happened. When I ejaculated and pulled out,
there was no condom. I was freaking out as it only takes one time to contract
HIV let alone all the other nasty STIs. I of course told him that the condom
was still inside. I couldn’t get it out, so he manually retrieved it. For those
not in the know, the top is the person that needs to ensure the condom is always
on. He blamed me for losing his condom… oops - I did accept full responsibility ! We eventually found the funny
side of the story.
He said he was tested 2 months ago and was clean. I was also
tested about 2 months and was clean. However, I don’t know my fuck buddy enough
to fully trust him. Especially as he has often said that he likes unprotected
sex – extremely risky behaviour.
I went to the sexual health clinic the next day. I was surprised
to learn that 5% of gay people have HIV (that’s one in twenty!). Although the
doctor said that it was low risk that I could have contracted HIV. She suggested
that PEP was available (post exposure prophylaxis). I am fairly anal about my
health, so I accepted the prescription for PEP. PEP is a 28 day course of
strong anti-HIV medication. Apparently 2 out of 3 people experience moderate
side effects and 1 out of 4 people experience serious side effects. These range
from tiredness, nauseous, vomiting, liver damage, kidney damage and various
other not pleasant side effects. It has been described to me as taking
chemotherapy without the hair loss.
I am now on day two, there are no side effects that I am
aware of other than getting tired. But this could also be due to sleeping over at
my fuck buddy’s place for the last two nights. Needless to say we didn’t get
too much sleep those nights :P
So my blog will also document my experiences with PEP. I
hope that I have no side effects. Although it will probably teach me a good
lesson to increase my motivation to always have safe sex.
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