So I had bitten the bullet and had agreed to go to
chefette’s place for a catchup.
It was a little awkward given the messages we had
exchanged earlier. We watched a couple of movies together, he was being a
little stand offish and was not really connecting physically like we previously
had. When we went to bed, we got talking about the messages.
He said he was irritated about how I could ‘flip’ and
described me as erratic which has made him ‘wary’ of me.
I explained that I was also irritated that he had not
been communicative as I had expected. I explained that after two calls Friday
and a text message that I would have expected a response sooner than he had
provided. It made me feel that he was not interested in me. So this explained
why I had lost interest as I was mirroring his apparent loss of interest.
He repeated that he didn’t have mobile credit and that I
was making incorrect assumptions. I assumed that he was allowed to use his
parent’s phone – he said his parents don’t like him using their phone. I said
that the only reason I was making assumptions is that I was getting no feedback
or information from him. Now that he had explained himself and corrected my assumptions
I was more comfortable in his feelings toward me.
He accused me of guarding my emotions and prematurely disconnecting
from a person when everything got too hard. I said this was unfair, I did show
that I was keen through the phone calls and text message. The only reason I
wanted to disconnect was his unresponsiveness.
He asked why I had agreed to come over given that I was
adamant that I had lost interest. I said that I was giving him the benefit of
the doubt and I owed it to myself to hear his side of the story before making a
break.
He said that he understood where I was coming from, but I
don’t think he truly got it. I think that he is one of those people that just
doesn’t get the whole return communication thing.
We did have a very pleasant night – we slept in till
1:00pm the next day (a little short of the last date – but still a mammoth 18
hours). Our parting hug and kiss was the most intimate yet and we both agreed
that we would catch up again… I’m not entirely satisfied that he truly
understood my position but we shall see what the fifth date brings to the
table.
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