There was one moment that the banter was so funny, my
diaphragm hurt from laughing so hard that I had let out a ‘bum burp.’ Needless
to say the group thought this was too funny, which meant my diaphragm didn’t
settle down for another five minutes.
It was getting late and a few people had departed, which left Mr Complicated, me, the
prior root from Friday night and the new person. We chatted for about thirty
minutes. Mr Complicated tried to make them leave the house by saying that he
was tired and was going to bed. It was proving to be a repeat of Friday night. Mr
Complicated whispered that he didn’t know how to make them leave. I said that
they were his friends and were disrespecting him for staying when he clearly
wanted them to leave. I was feeling unvalued as he appeared to value their
presence in his home more than our time together. I also got the strong sense
that he was a people pleaser and would never take assertive action to move his
friends along.
I was in the kitchen tidying a few things up when the new
person said that I could come over his house and start cleaning there. To which
I replied I aint nobodys bitch. He then called me a scrubber. It wasn’t the
word that offended me. It was more the fact that this was the perfect time to
oust them from the house so I could have my talk. I snapped and got the resolve
and conviction to eject them. I walked straight to the new person’s iphone and
disconnected it from the speaker. I handed it to the new person and said it is
now time for you to leave; the front door is this way. I ushered them out the
front door. My final departing words to them were that I was not happy.
I definitely upset the new person by ejecting him, he rang
Mr Complicated’s phone 5 times and left two text messages. Mr Complicated
couldn’t believe what I had just done. He commented that no one had ever done
that to his friends and felt happy that I had taken the initiative and ejected
them. His other side was that he was a little annoyed at me for ejecting them.
I think that overall he was pleased with my actions. I later found out in the
morning that the text messages were from the new guy apologising for his
actions and any disrespect that he may have shown to Mr Complicated or me.
Mr Complicated also commented that he sensed the new guy had
a crush on me and was a little jealous at the attention that the new guy gave
me (again – I’m completely oblivious to being checked out!). This may have
explained why Mr Complicated was way more cuddly with me that night (stamping his
territory) than the last time.
So we were alone snuggled under a rug on the couch, he was
lying next to me with his head resting against my chest. The ‘talk’ was to
begin…
I asked him how he was feeling towards me. He recognised that
he had deep feelings for me and really liked being around me. The last time he felt
a connection to another guy as deeply as me was his previous boyfriend. I asked
what he wanted from me. To which he replied that he was just happy me spending
time with him. He seemed to be pussy footing about the subject of exclusivity.
I asked him directly as to whether he wanted me to be exclusive. He said that
he just wanted me to be happy and didn’t want me not to be happy. He was
effectively giving me his permission to fuck around. He had one condition that
I don’t tell him about it and that if he asked the question to lie to him. This
made me feel very uncomfortable as I felt like he was trying to be a people
pleaser in trying to make me happy but not considering what he truly wants.
He made the comment that I was gorgeous and deserved
someone more good looking that him. His low self-esteem issues were manifesting.
My gaggle knows that Mr Complicated is good looking, nicely toned, tanned and a
great cheeky smile.
Mr Complicated also let slip that he 'almost loved me' - I tried to make him explain the phrase almost and what was holding him back. However, he clammed up and just held me tighter.
In many ways although I was uncomfortable, I was happy that
Mr Complicated was letting me off the hook to continue exploring my feeling for
Mr Chefette. Although I knew deep down that Mr Complicated was only wanting me
to fuck around, he was not wanting me to develop feelings for another guy. I
knew that Mr Complicated would be devastated if it came to pass that I was
developing a boyfriend relationship with another guy. But for the time being, I
am happy spending time with Mr Complicated and exploring possibilities.
I stayed the night in Mr Complicated’s bed. Again I felt
safe and it felt good with him holding me in his arms and I didn’t want it to
stop.
Does this make me a bad person? I do feel a little bad
continuing to spend time with Mr Complicated. I think it stems from knowing
that he is a people pleaser. I kind of feel like I am using him as a door mat
to spend time with and get a good fuck… but if he gets what he wants out of it –
is it truly hurting anyone? I have resolved not to let Mr Complicated attach
anymore strings.
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