Yes I know I have not commenced telling you about my rebound
relationship, but I have a confession to make today. Today my friendly demeanour
gave way to the bitchiness inside. I am ashamed and deeply appalled (well a
little anyway). So what happened? …
Got a message from an 18 year old Twinkie saying “Hey.” He also
posted several comments on my pics such as “take off the towel” and “you’d look
better with your shorts off.” Of course I was flattered as any gay guy would
be. I usually don’t chat to anyone below
25 as I just find them immature, childish and flippant (I should have
maintained my view).
After checking his profile it became obvious that he was a
serial tart and was posting comments on all pics of any guy that was good
looking to some degree. I think you know the type, the guy that’s just got on a
dating site thinking that everyone will think he is really cute and really
nice.
It all went swimmingly well, we were flirting with each
other. But then he started calling me ‘babe.’ Now I don’t know why that
irritated me so much. No one had ever called me babe, not even the X. He was
just getting too comfortable for someone that I had only just started chatting
to. It felt wrong being called ‘babe’, I was a guy – I was masculine – I had a
cock! Babe somehow felt reserved for effeminate fem and gals. So being direct I
suggested that he stop calling me ‘babe’ as I felt like it should be reserved
for women. We came to an agreement that ‘sexy stud’ would be my nickname.
As the day progressed he gradually got progressively more
possessive in his chat language. He referred to me as “his man” and “his sexy
stud.” I hadn’t seen his picture as yet (he promised to send it through later
as he was online through a tablet computer without a camera), so just said that
it is a little premature to describe me as ‘his.’
Then the final clincher came he said that I love you
multiple times, he had even changed his profile status to <3 My Nickname (‘LOVE’).
To be honest I should have taken it as it was intended just flirtatious banter.
But after a lengthy long term relationship, for him to say I love you even in chat
seemed childish and deeply wrong. So I said let’s face facts – we haven’t even
met, I haven’t seen your pic – so you don’t love me – you just have a man
crush.
He then fired up and yelled WHY ARE YOU SO ARGUMENTATIVE? To
which I replied that he was immature, flippant, to grow up and to go back to
school and learn a little English so he know the meaning of the words you are
using. Yes my bitchiness had come out in full.
Did he deserve it? Undoubtedly no, he was just chatting in a
way that he thought was appropriate for a dating site. He didn’t realise that
you need to adopt your chatting style to the guy your targeting. If you’re
chatting to a masculine guy – you don’t talk about how much you love Kylie and
don’t call him ‘BABE’ (unless you 100% know that he listens to Kylie). If you’re
talking to a fem guy – you don’t talk about how much you love your Holden SS
Ute or watching Australian Rules Football (‘AFL’). If you talking to an educated
guy – don’t assume that he will tolerate your inappropriate childish use
of words.
My confession is at an end… in my next post will continue to
blog about my rebound relationship.
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